Ì was about 19 years old when life taught me the virtue in keeping silent. I am not talking of silence that turns you into a doormat. No, but silence that has a voice.
I was in a public transport traveling between Ife and Akure )if my memory serves me well) when there was a heated argument between the passengers and the driver of our vehicle . Exactly what caused the trouble I can’t recall. All I know was that the passengers (with the exception of myself) in the Peugeot station wagon were shouting and abusing the driver who in turn was giving them the full length of his tongue. In anger he turned off the expressway and drove the vehicle straight into a Police Station.
Whilst the Police was still trying to make peace between the driver and my fellow passengers, he suddenly veered off his narrative and directed his gaze towards me. Pointing his finger, he said ” of all the passengers in this vehicle, this is the only person I am afraid of” . I wondered why he was afraid of me. He now said the reason he was afraid of me was that through out the exchange of words in the car till that moment I said nothing. He said because I wasn’t talking he doesn’t know what I was up to and who I was. That statement left me baffled. The truth was, I didn’t utter a word because I was the youngest in the car and I didn’t understand why they were quarreling so I didn’t know what I was supposed to say.
“Blessed is the man who, having nothing to say, abstains from giving us wordy evidence of the fact”…. George Eliot.
Eventually, the matter was resolved and we went on to complete the journey that day. That was a landmark event in my life. Till date, it is one of the virtues I have learnt to apply in my life.
I learnt that day that silence has a big voice. In fact, silence speaks with a very big loud speaker.
“The right word may be effective, but no word was ever as effective as a rightly timed pause”…Mark Twain.
As a kid whenever my younger brother and I were misbehaving, I remember my mum at times does not always yell at us. She just looks at us and says nothing. That silence said everything she needed to say. Everyone involved immediately got the message. That silence meant, “you will be throughly whooped later”
I am not advocating keeping quiet in the face of injustice because your keeping quiet when you are supposed to speak up may make you regret all your life for not speaking up especially when your silence leads to irreversible damage in another’s life.
“The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing” . Edmund Burke
“I don’t fear death, I fear remaining silent in the face of injustice…” Malakai Joya.
It’s not everytime you have to talk.
It’s not every statement you have to respond to in life.
When you don’t talk, your enemy or opponent is left confused as they don’t know what you are thinking.
“When you build in silence, they don’t know what to attack”. Anonymous.
There are times I see people going to the Social Media to share their personal problems. People on the social media don’t really care . They have their own problems too. Actually, you have just placed yourself on the lips of the talkers and gossips. Sometimes, it is better to even talk to yourself than to people.
“…20% don’t care and the other 80% are glad you have them”….Lou Holtz
Silence they say is golden. Nobody can quote a man who hasn’t said anything. Keep quiet in the times of anger so that you don’t regret what you say later. Words are like eggs. Once you drop them, you can’t retrieve them. Words spoken in anger most times end up as a thing to regret.
“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret”….Ambrose Bierce
“I have often regretted my speech, never my silence” Xenocrates.
In life it is better to hear two sides of a story before you make a comment. Speaking without adequate balance of information in a complex situation can make you look like a fool when the truth eventually emerges.
Silence at times makes you look like a wise man. So next time you don’t know what to do. Practice silence as it is a virtue.
“Even a fool, when he holdeth his peace, is counted wise” Jeremiah
Open your mouth when there is something to say.
“Open your mouth only if what you are going to say is more beautiful than the silence.” Spanish Proverb.
“Sometimes one creates a dynamic impression by saying something, and sometimes one creates as significant an impression by remaining silent” Dalai Lama.
You can’t go through life and become successful if you busy yourself trying to answer every dog that barks at you on the highway of life. There are people you have to ignore. No need wasting your time on them. I read in a blog sometime back (can’t remember which) a Blogger while talking about bus drivers (or something like that) said ….. ” you are going to work, he is going to the bus stop” (I paraphrase). That is an allusion to the fact that you have a more important destination before you so don’t waste your time with those who are going nowhere.
“Don’t waste words on people who deserve your silence. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say is nothing at all.” Mandy Hale.
Benedicta Saroh · June 2, 2018 at 6:09 am
Indeed silence is golden
Thank you Daddy
Ovyay · June 2, 2018 at 8:06 am
Thanks Benee. Happy weekend
Keji · June 2, 2018 at 6:15 am
Pro 29:11 A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards.
Ovyay · June 2, 2018 at 8:07 am
Yes, one must be wise. Thanks🌻🌴🌸💐
Kay · June 2, 2018 at 6:44 am
Thank you so much for this piece daddy. ‘Silence is golden’ ‘. I love this part. “Open your mouth only if what you are going to say is more beautiful than the silence.” Spanish Proverb
Ovyay · June 2, 2018 at 8:09 am
It’s great wisdom o Sis Katman. Happy weekend
Kay · June 2, 2018 at 6:47 am
Thank you daddy for this great piece. ‘Silence is golden’. I love this part. .“Open your mouth only if what you are going to say is more beautiful than the silence.” Spanish Proverb
Prince · June 2, 2018 at 6:59 am
Silence is indeed a virtue, it saves you a lot of trouble, it has helped me in all sphere of life, all thanks to you daddy and i also thank God for putting this wisdom in you to impact to many.
Ovyay · June 2, 2018 at 8:10 am
God take the glory. Thanks jare the great tamborinist 😂😂😂😂😂
Ovis · June 2, 2018 at 7:08 am
I Was In Line For A Defense Interview, And While Everyone Was Jittery And Making Noise, I Kept My Cool And Stayed Quiet, On Top Of Being Under The Pressure Of Wanting To Use The Lavatory And Not Being Able To Move.
I Eventually Got A Free Pass From The Interview Panel And I Passed It Easy…The Reason Being “You Were The Only One That Has Been Quiet Throughout Today”.I Didn’t Even Know They Were Watching Us.
So Yes, Silence Is Golden✌🏼
Ovyay · June 2, 2018 at 8:13 am
Great lesson Ovis. I remember when you shared the experience🔝🔝🔝
Tunde Akinseye · June 2, 2018 at 7:21 am
Words of wisdom. Silence saves you from a lot of avoidable stress.
Ovyay · June 2, 2018 at 8:16 am
Yes O Propheto👍👍👍👍
Melodious Melody · June 2, 2018 at 7:22 am
“Silence is golden”! You can never misquote silence though could sometimes be misunderstood. Just like in your piece, we should always weigh the situation and go with the Spanish proverb.
It’s a lovely piece. Thanks.
Ovyay · June 2, 2018 at 8:17 am
Thanks Ma. Have a great weekend
Ijeoma · June 2, 2018 at 8:18 am
Silence gives you an opportunity to re-evaluate your words before they are uttered/spoken. It also helps you evaluate the situation on ground to either speak or just be silent. I do this a lot, so I cant totally relate with this write up. The most important thing is to have the wisdom to discern when to be silent and when to speak.
Ovyay · June 2, 2018 at 8:20 am
Correct talk Sis Ijay. Have a great weekend
Adekunle · June 2, 2018 at 7:50 am
Great write up.
You are using this to remind me what happen sometime ago, when going home from oshodi to tollgate, sango Ota, Ogun state. There was a woman that love to play funny game with the drivers especially the bus fond call LT. She will board the bus while hearing the amount. After entering she will give less money while conductor reject the money, she will say she’s going to a bustop or drop along not final bus stop , as you know Lagos commutals they will turn it to issue, atbtye end she did not stop at the bustop she told the conductor became the conductor did not collect the money. Along the line the driver looked back and saw the woman and said this woman again that is the way you behave. He decided that he will not allow the woman to drop at tpher destination but to the final bistop and take her back to Oshodi and give her Bach her money and she will use the money to enter another money. But it the cause of the arguments, I join in the conversation the next word I hear from the woman is cause to me that I quote ” enu e lo ma ko ba e” that is your mouth will kill you. That day I enter straight into the spirit. And give it back to her raw, and asked Holy Spirit, why I heard it clean clear, “not all case you put mouth, since I learn how to be silent.
Ovyay · June 2, 2018 at 8:19 am
Wow, Sir, this is a real life experience O. I trust you not to take any nonsense. Great comment Sir🔝🔝🔝
Akin Soroye · June 2, 2018 at 1:35 pm
Silence is perhaps the most powerful means of communication. A million words are spoken in a brief moment of silence.
A mighty sword is wielded when a mighty warrior refuses to say a word. A married woman once told me, “My husband is scared when I refuse to say a word, inspite of the pressure. He’s more afraid of me when I’m silent than when I’m chatty.”
Great wisdom is displayed when the Speaker refuses to speak, only because Silence is a far better and weightier option.
God bless you sir.
Ovyay · June 3, 2018 at 6:09 am
Thanks Bishop. You truly hit the nail on the head👍👍👍👍
Adediran Abiona · June 2, 2018 at 3:26 pm
Silence &Smile are two powerful tools. Smilyis the way to solve many problems & Silence is the way to avoid many problems. Anonymous. Beautiful write up.
Ovyay · June 3, 2018 at 6:10 am
Sir, thanks for this quote👌👌👌
Kunle Folorunso · June 2, 2018 at 4:42 pm
Silence is not it all, at times, when you are in the midst of fools as an elder. You need to make a point but briefly, which will serve as reference point later in the future. If you came out with a statement after the damage is done, wise observers would ask you, “why didn’t you say this when it was matter, why now?”. An adage says, one need to cry when the head is still on your neck. There is no point crying after the head must have been cut off”.
Ovyay · June 3, 2018 at 5:37 pm
Another angle of truth💪💪💪💪
Obehioye Okoroafor · June 3, 2018 at 7:12 am
Silence is the key word most times. It goes a long way in life. Lovely write-up. Thank you daddy
Ovyay · June 3, 2018 at 5:35 pm
Ob5 no problem👍👍👍
Sis Promise · June 3, 2018 at 4:07 pm
In stead of saying nonsense, it is better to be silent.
Ovyay · June 3, 2018 at 5:35 pm
Truth well spoken👌👌👌
Benjamin Isidahomen · June 4, 2018 at 12:38 pm
Silence is golden. I use to be very hot tempered and I always regretted any word I say when I am angry but since I read the book of proverb I do curb my touch and it has save me alot .
Ovyay · June 4, 2018 at 8:27 pm
You a honest and modest man Benjamin. You will go far in life by God’s grace. Amen
Esu Reuben · June 9, 2018 at 6:02 am
I learnt from Creflo Dollar many years ago that silent is a virtue and since then I’ve cultivated it and I must say that it’s been rewarding. God bless you sir for this article and am glad I know you in person. In case you are reading this, this man is my foster father bear it in mind.
Ovyay · June 9, 2018 at 6:14 am
Thanks Reuben, your words gladden my heart and you have made my day🔝👍👍👍
Idemudia Godspower · June 13, 2018 at 11:39 am
I have really learnt a lot. Thank you sir
Ovyay · June 13, 2018 at 1:13 pm
You are welcome Bishop. I appreciate your stopping by