Desire is what you want, need, must-have, etc. This is not a perfect definition. It’s just to set the tone for this post. Desire is a ruler. Desire is strong. Desire is the picture in the heart of a man that has an attachment of emotion. This is why I normally say it is very difficult to remove a matter from the heart of a man once it has become a matter of emotion.
Desire can be reasonable or unreasonable. Desire can have a high price or low price. Desire can come from the madness of the heart, recklessness of the flesh or sensitivities of the soul. Desire can be an input from the extraterrestrial world but that is a matter for another day.
So what do you desire?
What do you desire
As our faces are different so is our hearts desires different. By having a desire that is different from yours doesn’t make mine superior or yours inferior. It’s a matter of choice.
My purpose in this post is to let you realize that your lack of interest in a thing does not make its existence useless. I don’t like Van Gogh paintings. I don’t and won’t spend money to buy it. This does not mean Van Gogh paintings are useless. There are people who love his paintings and spend thousands of dollars acquiring them. It’s what they desire and I respect them for that.
I love Cameras and Watches. I would splash the cash on these if I have it. I love watches that combine fashion and function. I don’t have a high-class Patek Phillipe, Chopard, Omega, Piaget, Vacheron Constantin,
watches, etc. Someone may ask, why should somebody waste their money on an ordinary wristwatch. After all my N500 watch is telling the same time accurately like their £1000 watch.
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True, but that is what they want. Some are not even rich, but they go and buy expensive Rolex watches and stay hungry. It’s their choice. If I could, I would too. I would love to see this masterpiece ticking on my hands. So if you have a real Rolex, you can send me a gift. Another may not be interested in Haute Horlogerie. It may be in necklaces. I mean some necklaces are over millions in dollars. You may say ordinary necklace. That is what they desire., don’t judge them.
One of my sons saved so hard to buy a phone of about N35, 000. I mean he went hungry, he trekked to school, he talked about it all the time and finally bought it. I remember he always said he is going through the effects of buying the phone. But he is happy getting his desire. One may say, is that the most important thing in his life? He should have bought textbooks etc. He should have bought an ordinary phone for N3000. What is a N35,000 phone doing that a N3,000 phone cannot do?
At, times this is a statement made out of ignorance. It’s like saying “car is car”. No difference. Why waste money on a Rolls Royce when you can buy a small Japanese Toyota? Its the day you drive a Rolls or a Ferrari that you will understand that “car is not car”. This cars exude magnificence and prestige.
I am not writing this post to support recklessness. I am not aiming to encourage wastefulnes. My point is this- after advising people on a subject, respect their decisions. Don’t impose your position on anyone. They may pretend to agree with you if they know that offending you may affect them negatively at the moment. By my experience, I have come to realize that when they are free from your control or domination, they will still go and do what was originally in their mind. “Give men your opinion, but let them form their own opinions from what you have said”. Whether it is in the purchase of an article of interest or choice of a life partner, give your advice and withdraw. A lot of marriages are on life support now because two people were forced into the marriage they didn’t want. In the end, you will still find one of them sneaking back to his or her original love.
What is on your mind ?
Understand this, once a picture has been formed in a persons heart, and it is backed with emotion, religion or culture, etc, it is always difficult to replace it. You need something really superior to change that picture.
You don’t need anyone’s permission to buy an expensive Bra for yourself. It’s your desire. Own your desire. You may want to buy Gucci sunglasses or one of these Aviator sunglasses. Let us say it costs between N100-150, 000. Now, this may look like a waste of money to another person. But you ask yourself? Is this what I want? Then do it. Yes, you could buy the exact same plastic for N200 in the traffic jam up in Lagos. It will have Gucci written on it but you will know its fake and not what you want.
OK let’s say there is a N200k Louis Vuitton bag that you wanted for your wife. The price is crazy. But every day you pass by the store you are like I have to give this to my woman. You could buy a fake LV bag at Aba. But finally, you chose to buy and present the N200k LV bag to your Madam just to appreciate her. Let us assume that financially this was not a wise decision to make. But in real terms, Madam is worth much more to you than a N200k LV bag. This makes the purchase a love cum desire purchase that cannot be subjected to economic reasoning at all. From the packaging alone, you know this is the bomb. As soon as she gets it, I can assure you of a life-changing experience in your marriage. (You can thank me later). She knows this cost an arm and a leg. She knows it’s crazy at this time to buy such a thing. She knows also this is an original LV bag. She stops and thinks… “he really loves me” . 20years to come when someone says “give me that bag” . She will answer “…. my husband bought it for me as a present” . She won’t let it go even if she doesn’t use it anymore. It’s got an emotional attachment to it. It says my woman is special. But if you bought the fake one. She will know its fake. Trust me. Her friends will also know it’s fake too. She says thank you, and that is the end of it so to say. She may use it once, then dumps it in the Wardrobe forever. “When a woman abandons a thing, it is really abandoned” .
So sorry I have to stop here as the post was getting a bit too long. I hope you don’t mind.
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